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Hi I'm doing my 29 gifts challenge.

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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 16:
The giving become old, I don't really have new ideas, I am less interested in doing that, and not thinking about it.
The conversation with Bumi, the girl that I met the day before convinced me to give this psychological clinic a try - I called them, and they said that they had opening for today - so I went there - the session was alright - the psychologist and I figured out what the problems, but both didn't see the use of my coming back for further treatments and using the work/support of my life coach instead.
I decided to gave her one of the chocolate again as a thank you of being kind, and non judgmental in listening.
(the chocolate as a gift become "old idea" and boring even if practical)
Later on the night - I called my friend in Toronto - and had hours of talk. she asked me how my healing process - I explained to her and also complain how my family don't understand, and often being judgmental. Even herself sometime judgmental - the reason why I am grateful for the approach of the psychologist in the clinic.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 14:
I have a book that I know I want to give away - a book written by a classmate that I got in the reunion. The book is about Public Relation and being a super private person that book is definitely for me. I decided that I will bring to my meditation class to offer it to someone that can use that better than I am. I asked a woman that I know and had help me if she would like the book - she said she doesn't need it - so I ask her if she knows someone that might. She then pointed another girl that actually works in PR company. I offered her the book and she was very happy to received it. I am glad the book find the right home.
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Tabby H
Tabby H (6)
Hi Vivianti,
This reminds me of my Bookcrossing days when I was living in Sydney. Do you know Bookcrossing? It's a very cool way of re-gifting books. The meetings I went to, where everybody brings a few books and it's a big free-for-all for all attendees were particularly fun!
https://www.bookcrossing.com/
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
That's sound very cool Tabby. Back in Toronto we have put one take one boxes that serve that function - but a gathering - that's so much more fun.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 13
Monday - I went to the shopping center specializing in mobile phone because I have problems with my wifi. I went to the first booth and was told that the network was down - so nothing wrong - I decided to get a wifi card - and the young shop attendant was very nice that I gave her the chocolate that I bought the day before. She was so happy with the gift and that's made me happy.
I went to the next booth and they helped me with my cell problem - I really wish I have another chocolate to give them because they are very nice too, but I didn't - so I just can say thank you.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 12:
I decided to attended a local church that I never be - I prepared a small gift that I planned to give to a stranger that I was going to attend there. But as I went there - I feel awkward to do it, and decided that the gift of the day doesn't have to be fancy, and consider my church offering as part of my gift of the day.
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Vivianti Santosa
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Day 9:
I don't cook that much anymore, but I today. and when I cook, I can't cook a bit - so I send more than half of the soup to my sister who lives a few house away.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Cami,
My challenge often come with people who receive, but ignore my gifts - or doesn't show the pleasure of receiving.
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Melanie Peters
Melanie Peters (144)
Vivianti, it is always tough when we don't feel gratitude from those we share with, but let the good feelings come from knowing you did a great thing and the energy you put out there made the world a little bit better because of you.
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Cami Walker
Cami Walker (342)
I agree with Melanie. Detaching from how our gifts are received is part of the process.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 5:
I am not feeling well, plus today is mom's birthday party, so not much chance to interact with other people beyond the family. After family lunch, I slept through the evening, so I decided to use the online present giving to my friend in NYC. He would not get it till a few days later, but I know he would be happy. JO had cancer for years and housebound. I send him pictures and post cards from around the world of my journey to cheer him up, but I never send him a real gift - I am sending him a pot of orchid today - I hope he will smile when he gets it.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 4 :
Today's gift is a hello - welcome - nice to know you gift to an online friend that I met for the first time. A few local cakes to try. He was happy with the gesture. I told him what I do (the 29 gifts) and he is happy that I am doing this during my dark days.
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Vivianti Santosa
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Day 3:
The day start with a call with a friend of mine who is a personal coach - a call that I had been trying to arrange for months - a call that I need as she is a kind of the last in the list of all efforts that I have tried in the last two years dealing with my depression. The story that she shared - she had been there - made me able to see a bit of light - because she understand what I need.

I had been thinking about today's gift since yesterday - it is for my best friend that currently housebound because her feet got injured. I want to send her something to cheer her up. So I send her a message asking for her address - but instead of her address I got a strong NO please leave me alone from her. so I back up. That made me remember another housebound friend - I will send him something one day.

I don't have any idea the whole day - so I said I'll give some money to someone in the market as I have to get some flowers for mom and the glasses for the caregiver that I promised yesterday - when I was waiting for her shopping I saw a garbage man pulling his cart - I know that my guy, so I approached him and slip the money that I intended to buy small gift for my friend, I'm sure he can get a good use for it.
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Cami Walker
Cami Walker (342)
great give. thanks for sharing. I struggle with depression too and find that giving usually lightens my mood a little.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 2:
Today gift is for the caretaker of the house that I am staying. I had notice for a few days that her glasses is broken, and meant to buy it for her - yet it is very difficult to find the right moment to say it to her - and I didn't do it until after I woke up from nap at 5 pm. She was so happy when I told her that - and that makes me happy too - Since today rains heavily I have still to do the deed tomorrow.
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Cami Walker
Cami Walker (342)
great give.
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Cami she is a very nice lady - we grew up together - and she is the one who actually takes care of me when I am here.
I ended up getting her two pairs - she bargain for me to the shop owners even if I am willing to pay whatever (I don't even look at the price - something that I never do for myself)
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Vivianti Santosa
Vivianti Santosa (112)
Day 1:
It was a gift that I bought for a friend long time ago but was about not to be given, because he relationship deteriorated since when I got it. I was particularly upset because he lied to me (and I accidentally caught it) - it was not the small lie, that upset me, but because from now on I can believe what he said. When I took the challenge, I know that the first day has to be a gift for someone that I have challenge giving, so I know that the book (about trust) has to to him.

I don't have a printer at home, yet I want him to know that I do this as part of this challenge. So I asked the help of a new friend of mine to print it. He gave me those when we met for dinner and coffee (a treat from him as the culture here, but still a gift that I appreciate)

Interestingly as I prepare to send the gift - I got a txt from this friend, we chatted and he invited me for a drink - I decided go and to just give the gift in person - we actually had fun talking all the night and I am much less angry at him - although I still don't trust him much.
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